Asking for help can be surprisingly hard, yet it's a vital life skill we all need to learn. After all, you can't cope with everything alone. If you think about it a bit like theater—a script, the dress rehearsal, and the live performance—it will help you prepare to ask in a confident way.
Here are some tips:
BE CLEAR ABOUT WHAT YOU NEED
Spend time writing things down in detail—what, where, when, how.
CHOOSE YOUR CAST
This is about being skilled in whom to ask to do what, based on their strengths and capacity to help.
WRITE THE SCRIPT
The more specific you are, the easier people will find it to help you. For example, "Can you water my grass once a week?" is clearer than "Can you help with my yard?" Make sure you explain why you need help too.
Practice! It doesn't matter if you botch your lines—rehearsing will help you to build confidence.
Make your request at a time and place when the person you're asking can concentrate on what you need. Ask by person or by phone, and choose a time when they’re not too busy.
With a little rehearsal time you might be surprised how many people jump in to help without batting an eyelash—giving you the ability to enjoy more of those everyday moments.